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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/20/2008 7:58:40 AM
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zoebob
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Donna, would it be correct to guess that you are the friend her kids pee'd on?
My ds is great at telling you what's really on your mind. However, he is pretty good at only doing it if you ask. He doesn't "volunteer" too much embarressing information anymore.
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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/20/2008 11:07:47 AM
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While interracial issues aren't as charged in Canada as they are in the US, it was still quite unbelievable when my daughter, seeing a black man in a store, the day after going to the zoo said, "Mama, dat man like a monkey. Eee-oo-oo."
(I responded by saying, at equal volume, "No dear, he's a regular person just like everybody else, like Patrice at Church. God loves to see people with skin of all different colours. Animals live at the zoo. Everybody here is a person. Don't make animal sounds about people - it hurts their feelings." The person never even glanced at us, but I hope I sufficiently communicated that she was making an honest mistake at her age not being racist, and that I was correcting her.)
It was also a problem when she was learning to differentiate genders and would call ladies "dat man" or men "dat lady".
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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/20/2008 11:58:40 AM
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pbaribeault,
As karlie knows, I hesitated to post a similar story here, because I didn't want anyone to feel awkward about it, or think I was making light of it. But as you've posted your story, I will share mine.
When I had my children, we lived on an island (called the Isle of Wight) which is largely rural - and there really were very few black or Asian people living there.
When my son was 2 or 3 (and never having seen anyone who wasn't white), we were at the bank one day. We were sat at a table as I was filling out a form. I thought my ds was happily scribbling on a blank form, as he often did, when suddenly he piped up with "mummy, is that a monkey?". I thought there must be some leaflets or posters that he'd seen with some monkeys on, but then he
pointed over the other side of the bank at a black man who was up at the counter.
I was mortified, embarrassed, anxious and scared. It dawned on me all of a sudden that my son was only saying this because he had never known anyone of a different ethnicity. Just for an instant I felt ashamed that I had not realised the need of this before now. I knew my son was not intending to cause offence, and that he would *never* have heard anything like that from myself, my dh or anyone in my family or at church. I was so worried about how the man himself might be feeling, about what others there would think. And of course I had to answer my ds's question, before he repeated it again, and louder (as children do when you don't answer right away).
I was afraid to look up. I quickly said to my son "No, sweetheart, he is a man - his skin is just a different colour because he comes from a different country. I'll explain more when we get home."
I then took a deep breath and looked up. No-one was looking at us. The black guy was still discussing his business with the cashier at the counter. I *think* he may well not even have heard us.
After that day, I made sure and introduced my son to different cultures - in books, magazines, on the TV etc. And talked to him, age appropriately, about differences and about prejudice. I started working out at a gym - to find that one of the trainers was black (from St. Lucia) so I made sure and introduced my ds to him (and later on, my dd). When the children were 8 and 4 we took them to an African music festival, and also to a Nigerian church in Hackney, London, where there were about 1000 black people at the service, and us 
So, though I still feel bad about that time in the bank, the incident did us a favour as it gave me a good shove in the right direction to educate my children about other cultures and racial matters.
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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/20/2008 12:02:25 PM
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I didn't think you were making light of it at all!
I also applaud the way you and others in this thread have handled situations like that.
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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/20/2008 2:55:48 PM
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Later on the ride home, Britt asked if she could get a baby brother that looked like him
LOL
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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/20/2008 5:56:25 PM
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Ds2 would not potty train for anything. So we turned to bribery. He wanted a tape measure, just like Daddy's. He finally got the hang of it, so ds2 and Daddy go to the hardware store and get one.
The next day, we go out for ice cream. It was a neighborhood place that we went at least once a week. Ds2 gets to the counter and proudly announces "I had a GIGANTIC poopy on the potty! And then we got a tape measure!". Try explaining that one...
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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/20/2008 6:11:50 PM
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ORIGINAL: karlie
Here's another goody from the same child(I think she was 9/10 of any embarrassment we had!)
She had gotten some new lacy panties to wear under her church dresses and she was very proud of them. One Sunday morning she walked right up to our pastor and said "Pastor, look at my pretty new church panties". Then in the middle of the main isle of the sanctuary, she proceeded to turn around, hike her dress up and bend over giving him a full view of her lace covered fanny. I was mortified!  But, Pastor acted like he got mooned by little girls every day and just said "oh, aren't those nice" Oy.
How old was she. I bet it wasn't the first time something like that happened to him. Kids often look up to their pastors and will tell them anything.
We had small group at our youth pastor's house on sat night. DD1 had just found out on Friday that she was getting bifocals for some vision problems. She walks around the house to where he was and says "I'm getting bifocals" no hi or anything...and she's 12.
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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/20/2008 6:15:33 PM
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How old was she.
She had just turned 3.
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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/21/2008 4:47:20 PM
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"Must NOT buy fancy panties for Church. Must NOT buy fancy panties for Church."
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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/21/2008 7:06:29 PM
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Manda- my brother did something similar in regards to an African man who was collecting money door to door, my little brother who was about 4 or 5 answered (he ran to the door before we could get there) and said "mummy there is a chocolate man at the door". We thought it was someone selling chocolate and I was thinking (cool!!) but it was an African man raising money for a cancer foundation. My stepmum apologised profusely but he just chuckled and said "that's the nicest thing that has been said about my skin"
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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/21/2008 7:11:50 PM
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"Must NOT buy fancy panties for Church. Must NOT buy fancy panties for Church."
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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/22/2008 2:43:51 AM
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My daughter just turned 20 yo yesterday.
When my dd was 3 yo, we had been shopping. We, my dh,dd, and I, decided to eat dinner in Nordstrom's. The cafe is casual and moderately priced and has good coffee. My daughter wanted to say grace and we let her. So our charming dd, with a bit of a loud voice still, said, "Dear God, I pray that the food isn't poisoned. Amen" We didn't know whether to hope someone heard or whether no one did!
My dd learned to read at age 4. So by the time she was 6 1/2 yo she was fairly fluent. The limit we put on her at the library was that if she fell over with her bag full over books she had to put some back. We took a trip to see my aunt and uncle who lived in Florida. Since they acted as my parents since I was 7 yo, they were grandparents to my daughter. We stayed a week with them and went to the library to get books, mostly for my daughter. She picked out several that I didn't find anything wrong with at a quick glance. After a couple days, when we were all eating breakfast out on the lanai, my uncle got up for some reason. In conversation, my dd proceeded to explain in detail about human reduction to my rather proper aunt. We were taken completely by surprise so the monologue went on until my daughter ended it with an explanation of the roles of the sperm and the egg, and then said, "But I don't understand how the sperm and the egg get together." She had a rather quizzical look on her face. I didn't know whether to crawl under the table, laugh uproariously, or both. The urge to crawl under the table increased when my aunt apologized for not spotting that my daughter had gotten that book.
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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/22/2008 8:55:47 AM
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Right after my first daughter waa born, My mom (new grandma) took my wife and the new baby to the mall. My wife couldn't drive yet becuase she had a c section. Grandma sat out on the bench at the mall with my duaghter in the stroller while my wife shopped for some new pst partum clothing. Well, daughter let out the largest noisy blast of gas and all of the people passing looked at Grandma like it was her. She has never forgotten the first outing.
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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/22/2008 9:33:47 AM
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When my oldest daughter was just under a year old, I went for a prenatal appointment late in my second pregnancy after falling pretty hard in my kitchen. Because the baby wasn't moving and was showing a low heartrate on sonogram, they wanted to spend some time monitoring her. About two minutes after I was told to not move and stay as relaxed as possible so that they could get a good reading, my oldest daughter decided that she had been there long enough and started throwing a huge fit. This was a hospital in Japan, so it wasn't set up for privacy like most American hospitals -- all of the OB/GYN rooms were one big room with partitions for each examining table. So EVERYONE in that whole section of the hospital heard the fit she was throwing. Every time I tried to calm her down, the monitors would shift, and we'd have to start all over again, all while my daughter was screaming at the top of her lungs! My husband finally took her for a walk around the building, but because of the way it was set up, I could hear her screaming no matter where they went in the hospital. When we were finally done, I got so many stares as I -- eight months pregnant -- carried out my still-screaming, visibly distraught daughter. Japan is such a polite, respectful culture, and I can't recall ever seeing a child there making a scene like that in public. I'm sure many people were wondering what business I had having another child, when I clearly didn't have the first one under control yet. Or maybe that's just what I was thinking! 
She's almost two now and has developed a recent interest in belly buttons. She enjoys lifting up her dress at church to show everyone her belly button, and if we don't stop her in time, she likes to try and lift up other people's shirts to find theirs. Very classy.
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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/22/2008 9:37:13 AM
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She enjoys lifting up her dress at church to show everyone her belly button, and if we don't stop her in time, she likes to try and lift up other people's shirts to find theirs. Very classy.
As long as she doesn't try to lift up other ladies' dresses
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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/22/2008 9:45:04 AM
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She's almost two now and has developed a recent interest in belly buttons. She enjoys lifting up her dress at church to show everyone her belly button, and if we don't stop her in time, she likes to try and lift up other people's shirts to find theirs. Very classy. ROFLOL!!!
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RE: Embarrassing Mommy moments - 4/22/2008 12:17:46 PM
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For whatever reason, my two and half year old when feeling uncomfortable or shy always says "You're so funny." Usually to new people. When he meets new people, he says "Hi, you're so funny." I've been trying to get him to say how's it going or something else. When he says it, it doesn't sound anything like what he says, and most people need to me to tell themwhat he said. One time at the grocery store, a very large woman was playfully making faces at him and then came up to him and started talking to him. Timmy responds with "Hi, you're so funny." Except it didn't sound like that, the woman looked very offended and said "it's not nice to refer to people's size." She thought he said "Hi, you're so fat." She felt better when I explained to her what he really said.
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